Art Sponseller, JD, PCC, Senior Executive Coach, www.artsponseller.com
I once supervised an employee who resigned when he realized he would never please me or get the affirmation he needed. It was a costly loss. When he made mistakes or failed to hit a target, he deflected responsibility to others. His perspective posed a significant challenge for me. I discounted his views and continually pointed out his shortcomings, etc. I was critical and harsh when holding him accountable. With other employees who, like me, felt self-responsibility easily, I could accept their insights when things went wrong, help them see alternatives, and hold them accountable.
I rationalized. My story was he didn’t fit with our way of doing things. But I was wrong. The problem was I could not read him accurately. I struggled to speak his language and explore alternatives. He was trying so hard to gain my favor and I could not see it. And therefore, I did not feel any empathy for him. I could not say the affirming words, “I see you, your situation, your efforts, and your desire to succeed.”
I now know that when feeling frustrated, challenged, etc., I lose some ability to read others and feel compassion for them. I’ve learned to release my frustration so I can connect with others. I know this because I took the WE-I profile from Learning in Action. https://learninginaction.mykajabi.com.
This instrument not only helped me, it helps all my clients. I ask “how well do you read others?” Invariably, the answer is “pretty good” or similar. I ask, “how do you know?” The response is often silence. I ask “would you be interested in taking an instrument that accurately answers that question?” YES, I would!
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